It is a truth universally acknowledged that the type of lingerie worn signals what kind of sex to expect. Wearing soft frilly lingerie seldom means rough sex, and the same goes for the opposite. That said, you’ll want to wear bondage lingerie that plays on the theme of being dominated and humiliated. But given the power play between dom and sub, doms will want to be pleased, and that includes the extent of his lingerie choice for you.
What to Expect from Submissive Lingerie
Bondage is very much enjoyable in its own right, without any stimulation. For the sub, a huge amount of pleasure can be derived just from the feeling of being controlled and confined. Still, the BDSM community boasts some of the most varied and exotic get-ups out there.
Many brands even go up and beyond by creating bondage lingerie with chains, leashes, blindfolds, and harnesses to complete the ensemble. Long gone are the days when you’d have to purchase bondage accessories separately to have the whole experience. For more, these props are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to sexy BDSM lingerie.
Expect most bondage lingerie to come in latex, leather, or rubber material—and a lot of the color black. Often, subs get as turned on from getting ready as they do with the experience itself. There’s just something about feeling the foreign material pressed against your skin that physically and mentally stimulates you for what’s to come.
Most importantly, anyone who thinks bondage lingerie is confined to women is sorely misled. Men can be submissives, too, and they can be great ones at that. Unfortunately, there are not many bondage-inspired choices for men as there are with women, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have fun. Here at iSexyChat, we work with what we have.
Bondage Lingerie for Women
Crotchless and Cupless Bondage Body by Cottelli Collection
Here’s another one by Cottelli Collection—we can’t help but appreciate how they nail every outfit! Slip on this minimalistic get-up in matte black. It combines the best of BDSM staple accessories—leather, buckles, and crotchless underwear—into one outfit.
The bondage has a stand-up collar with a long buckle that runs down the body. It’s a unique treat for sure, one we can’t get ourselves to look away from. The cupless bra is underwired and slightly padded, while the panties are crotchless and have buckles at the sides for better adjustment. You can also opt to have the collar and short sleeves detached from the set should your dom prefer a more naked presentation.
You can get this bondage body set for £45—which is definitely a steal for something this classy! It’s not every day that you see a cupless bra and crotchless panties come together in one set.
Pros
- Easy to wear
- Detachable collar and short sleeves
- Features several staple BDSM accessories
- Padded and underwired cups
- Crotchless panties
Cons
- Looks like leather, but is actually just made of polyester
- Thin buckles are not as sturdy
Bound to Cum Multiple Forced Orgasms Bondage Belt by Sub-Shop
Few activities in bed are more extreme than body exploitation by means of forced orgasms. This is made easy by Sub-Shop, which promises an intense experience with “lots of bondage and lots of orgasms.”
This orgasm belt is a gift that keeps on giving and giving…and it knows no end. Have your dom attach a wand-style vibrator to make the most out of this outfit. Feel the most powerless you’ve ever felt as you fluctuate between pleasure and exhaustion. By the time your dom is finished with you, you won’t be able to tell which is which.
Aside from the vibrator, there are O-rings that allow the attachment of cuffs, ropes, and chains. Just when you thought it couldn’t get any better, you’ll find a butt plug holder on the crotch strap so you can also integrate backdoor penetration to your orgasms. Generate a climax or ten with this one.
You can get this bondage belt for $155. However, this one goes out of stock pretty fast—just like it is now as of writing. Make sure to leave your email address with Sub-Shop to be notified when this product becomes available once more. You wouldn’t want to miss out on this!
Pros
- Made of real leather
- Works for any body type
- Lots of bondage and hardware attachment points
- Includes a butt plug holder on the crotch strap
- Adjustable wand position
Cons
- Goes out of stock quickly
- Not suitable for bigger and heavier wands
- Considerably expensive
Black Mesh Net Beaded Steel Boned Corset by BDSM Toy Shop
Doms can’t say no to a good corset lingerie. Integrate a little more love into your session without having to skip on the kinkier parts. Accentuate your best assets with this fullbust corset with steel busk closures in the front, laced eyelets at the top, and nickel brass grommets at the back. There’s also a thick cord for extra waist cinching if you’re not satisfied with the original fit.
This one doesn’t need the allure of additional accessories, either—its beautiful mesh net with beaded lace overlays is already enough for him to do the naughtiest things to you. As a sub, you’re in no position to tease, but it sure is fun to try. Subtly bait him with slight glimpses of your skin until he has no choice but to ravage it open like the present you are. The only thing that stands between you and your dom is this black satin corset.
You can get this boned corset for $100 to $115 depending on the size you get. BDSM Toy Shop is super generous with sizes, ranging from small to six times the extra large. But with a classy corset like this, you shouldn’t be minding the price tag at all!
Pros
- Indulges in, but is noncommittal to, the BDSM look
- Mix of fabrics from satin to mesh to lace
- Lots of adjustable options
- Can be worn as outerwear
Cons
- Quite pricey
- Does not include panties or stockings
- Not very comfortable for actual bedroom use
- Perfect fit might be hard to get right
Wrapped In Lust Body Harness by BDSM Toy Shop
Those who are into the whole harness look but would rather skip on the uncomfortable feeling that comes with it can opt for this tamer alternative by BDSM Toy Shop. This bondage-inspired playsuit is barely a real harness at all, but it sure looks the part with its strappy detail! It’s a dip into the BDSM lifestyle without having to fully commit to the role.
You’d quickly find that this body harness is not afraid to show off, either. Let your dom know he owns every inch of what he’s seeing right in front of him. He can easily push the faux harnesses to the side for quick and easy access to the crotch. Once you get past the initial struggles of putting this on, this will easily be one of your favorite pieces in rotation!
You can get this body harness for $25, which is perfect for those who are on a budget. Then again, you get what you pay for, and in this case, you’re getting straps for a playsuit—which is a pro and con in and of itself! It’s up to you to decide where it falls under.
Pros
- Very affordable
- Gateway to bondage play
- Frames every curve of the body
- Easy frontdoor and backdoor penetration
- Flexible and comfortable to wear
Cons
- Only comes in two sizes
- Leaves nothing to the imagination
- Can be complicated to put on
Crotchless Bondage Body Garter with Handcuffs by Cottelli Collection
Who says bondage lingeries can’t look elegant? This pick by Cottelli Collection will have your dom kissing every inch of your body. It takes the classic teddy lingerie and elevates it into a true BDSM delight!
Each portion is laced with many patterns to keep the mind entertained all throughout the session. The best part is that it leaves your breast and crotch area totally exposed. Not only is this pick affordable for the average teddy, but it also comes with sexy thigh garters with attached handcuffs, too! Putting this on is basically the same as begging your dom to put you in a position that only he can control. There’s no turning back now.
You can get this unique teddy set for £35 to get the right exposure in all the right places. Not many fetish lingerie can boast a price tag this low for so much.
Pros
- Very affordable
- Exposes the best parts of the body
- Easy frontdoor and backdoor penetration
- Light feeling when worn
Cons
- Only comes in four sizes
- Lace handcuffs are not for actual bondage use
- Looks like leather, but is actually just polyester
Inflatable Latex Dildo Panties by Sub-Shop
If your dom loves seeing you writhe in pleasure without much of his effort involved, he’ll be ecstatic to own a pair of these inflatable dildo panties. Wearing latex underwear is already sexy enough to begin with, but to have a naughty little surprise inside it? We’re practically sold! This inflatable dildo is bound to fill you up without you or your dom breaking a sweat. Sure, it’s nowhere near as good as his actual cock, but it’s pretty damn close.
Pro-tip: Pumping it with the thumbscrew release valve open can mimic the same pulsating effect you’d feel with a vibrator. Your dom can also pump it up to almost six inches and can even go for double its normal girth. Once you’re ready to level up, you’ll be glad to know that Sub-Shop even offers an upgraded version of this product—double dildo panties!
You can get the dildo panties for $140. Like its bondage belt, Sub-Shop is also running low on stock with these best-seller inflatables, so don’t hesitate to grab one of your own once you see it available on the website!
Pros
- Easy to clean
- Unique find
- Can be pumped to desired girth and size
- Suitable for self-play sessions
- Latex material
Cons
- Goes out of stock quickly
- Considerably expensive
- Pump is still attached to panties while in use
Luxury Spanking Girdle by The Model Traitor
Luxury bondage lingeries are an investment worth splurging on. Cheap thrills can only take you so far. You’d need the exquisite taste by The Model Traitor, a brand that brings bondage play to the next level. This artisan spanking girdle is a perfect example of a high luxury kink.
This spanking girdle has a hand-woven satin elastic front panel that gives firm control over the stomach area and strong powernet side panels that accentuate the curves of the body. Meanwhile, the back leaves very little to the imagination—the back is completely open at the rear to frame what will soon be blushing red ass cheeks. Indulge in this vintage fetish look for a night both you and your dom won’t ever forget.
You can get this luxury spanking girdle for a jaw-dropping £355. The price is no surprise given that the girdle was handmade by contemporary corsetière Sian Hoffman. For this price, you can also have it made exactly according to your own preference and measurement. If you have the means to splurge, we definitely recommend this statement piece!
Pros
- Artisan kinkwear by a renowned corsetière
- Several adjustment options to shape the figure
- Open rear to frame the cheeks
- Easy backdoor penetration
- Front or back of the girdle can be customized upon request
- Comes in five sizes but can also be made-to-measure at no additional cost
Cons
- Very expensive
- Does not include stockings or spanking accessories
- Non-refundable
- Non-returnable for custom orders
Beltis Fetish Wet-Look Mini Dress by Passion Lingerie
Not a fan of all those props and accessories? No worries. Here’s a clean pick for the chic gal you are. Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this mini dress—Beltis is made out of leather and PVC material, durable for even the roughest and messiest of playtimes. It’s a fairly ordinary mini dress but elevated with a fetish touch, and we know the BDSM community would be nowhere without its classic wet-look outfits.
This one has a low-cut front to reveal some (or a lot) of cleavage as well as an open back. Your dom will know this isn’t a dress like any other when he’s given a glimpse of your bottom cheeks peeking out of it. Passion Lingerie intentionally designed the dress to cut off where the ass meets the thighs for that extra temptation to look, and later, definitely touch.
You can get this wet-look mini dress for £40. Catch it on sale on the Peaches and Screams website for a limited time!
Pros
- Very affordable
- Can be worn outside the bedroom
- Easy to clean
- Wet-look from PVC material
- Embraces the body without revealing too much
Cons
- Only comes in three sizes
- Too safe and simple
Leather Straitjacket by Secret Desire
Anyone say prolonged bondage? Try a straitjacket, which subs can usually manage for hours at a time. We don’t mean one of those bulky looking jackets that are reminiscent of a mental institution, either. This redesigned straitjacket by Secret Desire features a trendy modern twist with a cutout cropped jacket with only buckle harnesses to support the breasts but leave them exposed. Your dom can also bind your arms whichever way he pleases.
Here, deprivation is heightened—not just in a sexual sense, but also in bodily movements. Spend five hours restrained inside this leather straitjacket just because your dom says so. Plus, many subs have expressed the calm and comfort of being strapped in a straitjacket, almost like a weighted blanket wrapped around you. By the time your dom is done with you, you’ll be deep into subspace.
You can get this straitjacket for an affordable price of £30. Given the price, the restrictions might not stay in place for rough handling, but it still makes for a great statement piece outside the bedroom. We can’t stop thinking about the many ways this can be styled!
Pros
- Very affordable
- Modern reimagining of a straitjacket
- Comes in three colors
- Buckle harness to frame the chest
Cons
- No size variations and measurements indicated
- Only made of artificial leather
- No guarantee that sleeve locks will stay in place
Bondage Outfits for Men
Leather Slave Harness by Mister B
This one is one of Mister B’s classics, which has stayed with the company ever since its establishment—and for good reason. It features two leather straps that run from the back downwards, over the ass cheeks, and towards a cock ring in the front. Feel the sturdy material of leather and the cold touch of the buckles. It’s a number of sensations compiled into one!
You can also think of it as a BDSMsified jockstrap. In addition, the cock ring is removeable, so it’s easily replaceable with a favorite cock ring of your own! Talks of the cock ring aside, your dom will also find that a back entrance is fully possible with no leather straps to block the punishment coming your way.
You can get this leather slave harness for £245. It’s in no way marketed as luxurious but has the price of one. Still, it’s not every day that men get beautiful pieces of their own such as this. Doms who are reading this right now should consider gifting this to your partner for being such a good sub!
Pros
- Sturdy leather harnesses
- Removeable cock ring
- Easy backdoor penetration
- Improved since its original release
Cons
- Very expensive
- Only comes in four sizes
- Buckles are purely decorative
Locking Jock Cock Chastity Belt by Sub-Shop
Nothing says control like your dom ordering you not to touch yourself. It can be tempting for sure, which is why Sub-Shop came up with a jockstrap chastity belt for bratty men like you who refuse to listen. Now, you’ll have no choice. No matter how big of a bulge you can muster, you won’t be able to sneak your way out of this one—unless you cry and beg for release, that is.
Your dom can even use a prostate stimulator or a wand massager to bring you to the edge even without laying a single finger on your cock. Feel the sensual experience elsewhere and everywhere at the same time. Can you climax with a chastity cage locked on your package? That’s something for your dom to find out.
You can get this chastity belt for $48 while it’s offered at exclusive deals. One of the customer reviews said it was a “humbling experience” to have his wife take charge of his body in the bedroom. Don’t wait to find out what that feels like and shop now!
Pros
- Very affordable
- Features several adjustable hooks
- Not suffocating to wear
- Soft leather to allow room for bulge growth
Cons
- Only comes in one size
- Strap style might vary upon purchase
- Small padlocks might break easily
Fetish Eros Man Skirt by Male Power
Some subs like being emasculated. Some doms like to humiliate. Whatever the reason, Male Power has come up with a wet-look gladiator kilt to meet all kinds of fantasies. The skirt is made out of triangle flaps and decorative metal studs, but the true star of the show is the attached thong with a cutout peephole for a naughty surprise. This makes penetration possible even with the skirt still on. Your dom might even ask you to wear this out for a costume party to the club, but only he will know how exposed you truly are underneath.
You can get this one-of-a-kind male lingerie for a very cheap price of $25. When Male Power was launched in the 1970s, its founder wanted to encourage men to liberate themselves from the shackles of traditional social acceptance, and what better way to do this than a gladiator kilt? It’s quite an outfit to wear, but your dom is sure to love how emasculating this will look on you. Besides, it’s 2022—we’re all about men in skirts! No shame here.
Pros
- Very affordable
- Unique find
- Includes a thong with a cutout peephole
- Easy backdoor penetration
- Light feeling when worn
Cons
- Only comes in two sizes
- Peephole is too small for the head to pop out
- Looks like leather, but is actually just polyester
Extreme Muzzle Head Harness by Mister B
Here’s one that’s on the wild side of things. No matter how hard you try, this ultimate head harness gives you no room for speaking or moving. You’re only left with an open nose to breathe in and out of. It has four thick leather straps that essentially make it impossible to wiggle out of. Don’t worry, the muzzle is padded so the mouth can remain comfortable inside it for hours at a time.
Meanwhile, its harness runs along the top of the head, across the sides, and around the neck—an all too present reminder of your kinkiest submission yet. There are four D-rings along with the harness that can be used to restrain you to a frame, wall or cage. Your dom can also clip on a leash and make you walk around like a dog. As Mister B puts it, this head harness is “only for the most submissive.”
You can get this muzzle head for £290. As we can already tell with the above slave harness for men, Mister B puts a prime on product quality and longevity, hence the heftier price tag. You might be splurging now, but this one can remain in your kinky closet for a lifetime!
Pros
- Sturdy leather headgear
- Padded muzzle for comfortable long use
- Double leather strap along the back
- No room to move or talk
- Features D-rings for extra restraint
Cons
- Very expensive
- Only comes in one size
- Bulkier than the usual head harness
The Best BDSM Outfits Are Dom-Approved
The line between bondage lingerie and equipment is sometimes blurred, but who’s complaining? Our curated list is evidence of BDSM community’s innovation on the fetish lingerie over the years. It’s impossible to pick the best one since each and every item offers something bold, something new—it would be like comparing apples to oranges. We completely understand why people into BDSM are gleefully sucked into an ever-growing bondage collection, buying one paraphernalia after another.
So what are you waiting for? Show your dom this list and have him or her pick out your next fetish lingerie in bed. Maybe you could surprise him, too, but prepare to be spanked when he gets angry that you didn’t ask for his permission first!
