Would you believe if we tell you that scientists can predict what your sex life is based on your personality? It’s true! That’s because sexuality and personality are interlinked. In fact, one study intimates that the Big Five personality traits can partially shape our sex lives.
The Big Five traits include openness to experience, agreeableness, extraversion, conscientiousness, neuroticism. This article will discuss how each personality affects our sexual attitudes, behaviors, and health.
What is Your Sex Personality?
Sex and personality go together. More specifically, the Big Five personality traits have a direct impact on what you’re like in the bedroom. Let’s take a look at your sex style based on how you score in each of the five traits.
1. Openness to Experience
People with this personality are curious and very much willing to learn new things. They also tend to be more imaginative and artistic.
Given these tendencies to daydream, it’s no surprise that people with high openness have more sexual kinks and fantasies. And because of their eagerness to try new things, they have a more liberal attitude toward sexuality and are more willing to acknowledge being bisexual or gay. Their sexual openness is also probably the reason why they are less likely to exhibit sexual dysfunctions and are more sexually satisfied.
If you fall under this category, you’re more eager to carry out your sexual fantasies than most people. You’re not averse to the idea of roleplaying, and if your partner suggests anything you haven’t done before, you’re at the very least willing to explore it before passing judgment.
2. Agreeableness
Agreeable people are naturally considerate and kind. They genuinely care for other people and want to make them happy. And since they care a lot about other people’s feelings and don’t want to hurt anyone, highly agreeable people are less likely to cheat. Plus, they are not that aggressive as, say, people who score high in other traits.
Furthermore, agreeable people report less desire for sex, so they have less casual sex and less frequent sex in general. As a result, they’re less prone to STDs. But, despite having less sex, agreeable people report being satisfied with their sex lives.
If this is your personality, you probably don’t have that many sexual fantasies or much desire to act them out. Or even if you do have some, they’re probably less wild than an extraverted person’s fantasies.
3. Extraversion
Extraverted people are outgoing and socially confident. They love going out and mingling with the people around them. They also tend to be more sexually active, which is not very surprising. They don’t just report more frequent sexual fantasies and desire for sex. They are also actively doing it more often. Extroverts are less likely to report sexual difficulties or dysfunctions, so they tend to be more satisfied with their sex lives.
However, according to research, extraverted people are more prone to cheating. This kind of makes sense because the more they encounter and blend with other people, they’ll naturally be exposed to more opportunities to cheat than introverts.
If you’re an extrovert and having a threesome is one of your fantasies, you need someone who is open enough to fulfill this kink of yours.
4. Conscientiousness
People with this personality tend to be more detail-oriented and self-disciplined. They don’t like doing things on a whim. Everything has to be in order and on schedule. They also have more traditional and conventional attitudes.
And because of their conformist behavior, conscientious people are more conservative when it comes to their sexual preferences and attitudes. This is probably one of the possible reasons why they’re not likely to cheat.
If you’re conscientious and want to play out your most erotic fantasy, you can make your attention to detail work to your advantage in the bedroom. For example, if you want to roleplay with your partner, you can take care of all the details, such as your room’s design and the costumes you’re going to wear.
5. Neuroticism
Last on the list is neuroticism. This describes neurotic individuals as emotionally unstable people. They don’t handle stress well. Even minor annoyances and displeasures can put them in an extremely bad mood.
Because of this behavior, neurotic people tend to be less happy and satisfied with their sex lives. In fact, they don’t just have higher levels of sexual dissatisfaction. They also experience more difficulties with sex because they find it harder to relax and get in the mood.
Interestingly, they report higher rates of STDs. It could be because they get tested more often, but it’s also possible that they engage in riskier sex. No one really knows. This is something that’s still unclear and needs more research.
Playing out your fantasies and kinks should be fun and relaxing. If you identify yourself as a neurotic person, you should be more careful when choosing a partner to carry out your fantasies and kinks. Find someone who understands you and what you’re going through so that they don’t give you more stress than you can handle. You can also try doing something simple like roleplaying or having romantic sex.
Takeaway
Finding out your standing on the Big Five personality traits can help you better understand your sexuality. And the more you know yourself, the more you’ll be able to express your sexual preferences, as well as your sexual fantasies. So, which traits did you score high in?
