Sex is not something taught in schools. Yes, there’s sex education. But it deals more with human sexuality, responsibilities, and emotional relations—not the act itself.

Parents also often do a crappy job at explaining sex to their children. Do you remember when you had your “birds and the bees” talk with your parents? On a scale of 1 to 10, how awkward was it? And were they able to answer all the burning questions in your mind?

That’s why many people, mostly adolescent boys, turn to porn to learn about sex. But that’s the worst way to go about it.

You may learn a lot of intricate moves from porn. But the truth is, sex in real life is not a series of complicated moves that will give you body pains in parts you didn’t know could feel pain. It’s much more enjoyable than that.

Continue reading to learn the truth behind porn vs. real-life sex.

The Hard Truth: Is Porn Real Sex?

Porn is a fantasy. It exists for entertainment purposes. They bend their bodies in unimaginable ways that will make you wonder how they can still stand up after. That alone should tell how unreal porn is. Fortunately, having sex in real life will not give you chronic back pain or leg cramps.

Here are just some of the porn myths that men need to stop believing.

1. Cum-on-Face is a Turn on for Women

In porn, you’ll see men ejaculating on their partner’s face, boobs, or bum. There’s really nothing wrong with this one—if your partner will agree to it. But you’ll hardly find someone who will be okay with it.

2. Foreplay Doesn’t Matter

Sex is not just about rubbing genitals with each other, as most porn films portray. In porn, they get on straight to the juicy stuff. You may see 30-second foreplays at random, but they’re mostly neglected. This may give you the idea that foreplay isn’t important. But it’s a vital element in a happy and healthy sexual experience for both parties.

3. Women Don’t Need Stimulation to Orgasm

Porn films show women moaning and climaxing within three minutes of having sex, which is very unrealistic. Women need continuous stimulation to orgasm. Did you know that most women need at least 20 minutes to climax?

4. Ass-to-Mouth is Okay

Ass-to-mouth (ATM) is a common trend in porn. But it’s not something you should be doing with your partner. Not only is it disrespectful, but it’s also unhygienic. Can you imagine putting something in your mouth after it has been in your ass? If you don’t like that idea, neither does your partner. Don’t force anyone to expose themselves to all sorts of health risks.

The Nitty Gritty: What Does Real Sex Look Like?

Real sex isn’t glamorous, as depicted in sexy movies. Neither is it violent and misogynistic, as seen in most porn films.

Real sex is a beautiful and profoundly intimate experience that connects two people in the deepest parts of themselves. On the same breath, it’s also an awkward and messy series of bodily spasms.

Here just some of the key differences between porn and real sex.

  • Real sex is all about consent, which is hardly ever mentioned in porn films.
  • Real sex is meant to give people a strong sense of emotional and physical pleasure, whereas porn is all for show.
  • Real sex empowers both men and women to explore their gender and sexuality. Porn films, on the other hand, are mostly made for a man’s pleasure. That’s why they often portray women as submissive and are treated abusively or roughly.

Takeaway

You need to understand that the women in porn films are actresses. It’s their job to make it look like they’re enjoying themselves in front of the camera. Porn is a form of entertainment. It was never meant to be seen as an instructional guide.

Sex is beautiful and powerful at the same time. It should never be used to control or abuse anyone. So focus on real sex, not porn.